Parchemina's Tips for Virgin Brides

I find myself in a strange kind of limbo land...

I am 32 and I've never had sex, but I am about to get married and I do plan to have sex after that. So "Trevor" and I have been finding out about contraception. There is something quite amusing about talking to people about contraception as a 32 year old virgin!

As a result of this limbo land experience, I have decided that I will try to talk to more people about contraception so that they know what's available and who are good people to talk to about it. I'm not going to accost random strangers or anything like that, but if there are appropriate people and appropriate conversations, I will share my newfound knowledge.

Trevor and I weren't keen on the idea of going on the Pill, and I particularly wasn't keen on going on it just before we got married, what with the possible mood swings, skin problems and other such things it might cause. But we have been through a very good decision-making time together and have eventually ended up with me on a progestogen only pill. It's going fine so far, but I only started it on Friday!

We first thought that IUDs (intra uterine devices) looked promising, but since I haven't had any children (no immaculate conceptions for me, thankfully!) that's not such a good idea. And I found the pre-exam uncomfortable enough. Plus the fact that the first month is apparently rather uncomfortable - not so good in combination with the month before your wedding!

Another piece of advice that I would like to share with anyone else in my position (I'm sure there are some others out there!) is that it's probably a good thing to check out more than a month before your wedding. I felt too silly to do anything about it earlier, but I think it could have been a good idea. And there were good books in the library once I was brave enough to get them out!

So there we go... I might start a series if I can think of any more useful tips :)